(much like a fish giving you bicycling tips)
> He guys. Haven't been here for a few weeks. Through the years I come and go.
> I have been married for 10 years to a wonderful women - my soulmate. I have 3
> wonderful kids. At the beginning of this year I burried myself in work (started
> a company). I thought that if I could complete this one project, I could put
> our family ahead financially. While it might have done that, about two weeks
> ago, I learned that my wife has lost here love for me. She met a guy at her
> work and they have grown very close. I don't think she has cheated on me, but
> she does love him. Boy has this really put things in perspective for me. I
> love her more than anything - I am heartbroken. I left my 9-5 job at IBM last
> week so that I can focus on this. Everyday I focus on her and my kids. I am
> doing everything I can to win her back. I consider myself a christian. I found
> god years ago but fell away since I thought I didn't need him. Since this has
> started, he brought me to my knees. I am not preeching to you about finding
> god. I pray everyday. Since this started, I would say that things are getting
> better. She is staying at home and even sleeps in my bed with me. We spent the
> day together. It was awesome. It's been so rough, I sometimes wish I could
> just leave. The though of her and this other guy makes my stomach ache. She
> will not admitt to this guy - guess she thinks it will hurt me too much. I don't
> know who he is but I know she works with him and he is married with 3 kids.
> What an asshole. Not only is he beening unfaithful and destroying his marriage,
> but he is trying to destroy ours also. I would love to find him. I wouldn't
> hurt him, but I bet his wife would love to know about all of this. I consider
> myself a lucky guy. None of my friends or close family members have every
> passed away. I have never had a girl break my heart. I have to say this is the
> worst pain I have ever experienced. I have found something so important that I
> will never stop fighting for it. She is the one. I know that.
I don't mean to bag on you (but I have to keep my rep as a terrible person up), but she was probably feeling neglected or some such, found a friendly ear in this other guy, and one thing and another and here you are.
It sounds (from your narrative, to my ever-so-practiced mind) like she's willing to work things through. Give it some time, give it some work, and I think you guys'll pull through. <wapanese>Ganbatte kudasai.</wapanese>